Apr 28, 2019
Steve Argue is associate professor of youth, family, and culture
at Fuller Theological Seminary and applied research strategist at
the Fuller Youth Institute. Steve researches, speaks, and writes
regularly on topics surrounding adolescence, emerging adulthood,
faith, and spiritual struggle. This is the 4th conversation in our
Creativity Month (April 2019).
- 3:05 - We wanted to raise confident females who were
comfortable in their own shin. Who knew their own voices.
- 3:25 - looking at the world differently through our girls
- 4:05 - keep reminding our kids who they are and whose they
- 5:15 - the pain of moving as a family and the impact on their
- 5:55 - my daughter is feeling pain and I can't take this
- 6:00 - it's never too early and never too late to be the best
can you can be in this moment
- 7:45 - early on the assumption is that your kids will always be
pursuing you... And then we get lazy as dads and the relationship
is changing. We must continue to pursue them.
- 8:35 - story about the post-it note "They're not going to knock
- 11:05 - accidentally turning our kids into the identifying
- 11:40 - what type of father do I need to be today for my
- 12:09 - growing with parenting is a mutual journey of
intentional growth for both ourselves and our children that trusts
God to change us all
- 12:50 - FREE chapter of book Growing With and free quiz for
- 14:10 - "Withing" and Family Warmth >> we need to realize
that the relationship is going to change.
- 15:07 - Relational warmth is more important that teaching. They
need to be loved and cared for and seen and relationally present
more than anything.
- 16:05 - never give up... the next day is a new day and we can
step closer to our kids and try again.
- 16:58 - Fatherhood research about the impact of a dad...
- 17:40 - dads play a really important role... We as dads must be
careful in drifting towards passivity
- 18:12 - looking to an adult figure is how kids learn about what
their Heavenly Father is like
- 18:40 - we need to go for it. Don't hold back in talking about
- 19:05 - do something crazy for Jesus and give God credit for
- 20:05 - going out for coffee and dad buys and then they talk
about serious things
- 20:30 - "Tell me something you believe about faith that you
don't think dad believes"
- 20:40 - "Tell me something you used to believe that you no
- 22:00 - Learner stage, Explorer stage or a Focuser stage and
what type of parenting is needed in each of these stages?
- 23:10 - Try to say YES more than NO... I think we should
respond with YES more often. Why not?
- 24:02 - We must make room for creativity. A rushed life has no
room for creativity.
- 24:35 - Living filled with WONDER
- 25:00 - Nobody says, when I'm in my 60's or 70's I'm going to
be inflexible and a sour puss. It sneaks up on us.
- 25:15 - How do we make sure we're infusing wonder in our own
- 25:27 - How do we show genuine interest in our kids?
- 25:40 - "If you could describe your day as a dessert, what kind
of a day did you have today?"
- 26:50 - avoid putting all our eggs in one epic basket. Look for
the epicness in the little things along the way.
- 28:40 - You were made to be a dad and your kids need you. Help
them find their voice and never give up
- 29:20 - you're not alone. Seek out another dad to take this
fatherhood journey together with. Don't father alone.
and Parent Quiz
Growing With: Every Parent's Guide to Helping
Teenagers and Young Adults Thrive in Their Faith, Family, and