Nov 4, 2021
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Seth Barnes is founder and president of Adventures in Missions,
a discipleship and missions ministry that has taken over 125,000
people on mission projects around the world since 1989. The mission
of Adventures is to deeply connect people to Jesus and his
movement. Their goal is to train 100,000 disciple makers focused on
fulfilling the Great Commission. Adventures has ministry training
centers around the world that are focused on making that goal a
To move toward the fulfillment of the vision, Seth also founded
the World Race in 2005. The World Race provides trained teams of
young adults the opportunity to engage in 11 international mission
contexts in 11 months using an experiential, missional discipleship
model. Adventures emphasizes listening prayer, relationships, and
servanthood in their work amongst the poor. Both through
ministry/training centers and World Race ministry teams, Adventures
maintains an active presence in a number of African countries. In
addition to overseeing Adventures in Missions, Seth is a speaker,
author, and prolific blogger. His blog, Radical Living, can be
found at www.sethbarnes.com. Seth is married to Karen. They have
five children and seven grandchildren.
Seth's books on Amazon
Episode 200 Party:
- Tuesday, January 9th from 8-10pm we are gathering 200
dadAWESOME friends for a couple hours of fun. Spikeball, Cornhole,
Music, dadAWESOME Giveaways, Food and some Vision/Mission/Hopes for
- We're hosting this party in NE Minneapolis at Ninth Street
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- 3:19 - Adventures in Missions: The World
- 4:31 - Being a 9 year old with his dad in the Vietnam War
- 8:20 - YouTube clip
from 1988 - pulling kids around on palm tree leaves example - 53
min. mark on
- 8:40 - The continuum of softness to drivenness.
- 9:12 - And innovation, not just at
work, but also on the playground, so that palm branch, it looked
like just, you know, something might have to throw away or it could
be this magical ride that they could jump on and pretend it's a
horse or something, you know, and that's I always tried to approach
the playtime that way, you know, inventing games not just like
pulling down a box and opening it and letting somebody else set the
- 10:44 - "So it's great to be soft when
they're, you know, zero to five and they need boundaries, of
course. But but you've got to start challenging them and people ask
me, you know, when, when can I take my child on mission? Well I
used to take them at age four and five on a mission. And man, that
really tones down the entitlement, which is a huge issue these days
- 13:24 - the importance of challenging
entitlement in our kids
- 13:59 - Somebody needs to be taking
them out of entitlement, out of a self-focus, out of this place of
just kind of, I don't know, they get to Yale and they're called
snowflakes. I mean, we've got to stop this as a as a nation or
we're just not going to have a generation to hand any kind of
- 14:14 - How do we help our kids embrace
- 14:56 - Know the phase you are in: Ages 0-5
- Identity formation. Ages 6-12 - Body, Soul & Spirit formation.
Ages 13-18 - Connection to the world of adults.
1. From 0-5 Identity formation
Main job is loving them & attachment formation. Key
activities: Focused attention, touch, eye contact. Play with them &
teach them agency (example - me 33 yrs ago playing w/ the kids - 53
min. mark on this
2. From 6-12 Body, soul & spirit
: Main job is mentorship/discipleship. Stay
deeply connected w/ them and help them move toward, not away from
challenge so that curiosity guides them and kids become lifelong
learners. This is where the battle for faith is won or lost. My
secret weapon was to take/send them on
3. From 13-18 Connecting to the world of
adults. Help them embrace the process of growing,
especially by embracing the healthy pain of responsibility &
In this last stage, I watch so many dads absolutely fail. They
don't trust their kids and specifically, they don't trust them with
what I call "healthy pain" - instead confusing it with the kind of
caustic pain that they often have not adequately processed
- 15:20 -
Piaget and cognitive development
- 18:01 - "And we've got to lean into the
future if we're ever going to raise greatness in our kids."
- 18:09 - John Tyson's Primal Path -
The capstone was The World Race for his son.
- 21:05 - "We're going to do fun and missions.
And, you know, I'm just trying to bait the hook and and get
everybody to see that there is a bigger picture by exposure."
- 21:15 - Recognize there are four levels of
- You and God
- Good Family
- Affect the world
- 21:53 - "You've got to recognize true religion.
James, 127, says, is widows and orphans in their distress. Let's go
take care of them. Let's go and recognize that we're not the center
of the universe."
- 22:50 - "that was the pivotal moment in my life.
Maybe there's that, you know, when I ask my wife to marry me, but I
asked that question and I was in a broken place. I mean, our
marriage wasn't the best and we're at a marriage retreat and I
needed to hear God. I mean, I was desperate. And God spoke to me in
a voice that it was just incontrovertible. It was him. And he said,
I love you, Seth and I. I just wept. I was just a puddle of tears.
This is what I've been waiting all my life to hear, but didn't know
that I could, that it was even available and it made all the
- 24:03 - Tips for hearing the voice of God
- 24:12 - "I would get all five of them (his kids)
and we get on our knees on the couch and we talked to God. And I
just ask questions. And I was present and I was intentional. So I
think you've got to find a way to carve out that space. And if you
have that space, if you need to, if you need curriculum or just
some prompts, there's a book I wrote called
The Art of Listening Prayer.
- 25:30 - Story of Seth leaning in and pursuing
healing with his dad
- 28:30 - Story of Jeff's dad and the moment of
Jeff coaching his dad on how to pray a prayer of double
- (Jeff) 29:19 - "There's something about
choosing, even though there's pain for many of us who are dads, you
know, I'm thirty nine. There's pain. Pain can separate us from our
earthly father or pain. We can choose to press through it. Just
like you said, pain is great. Pain is good. We choose to press in
and the gift and the blessing of choosing a president versus be
hardened and calloused."
- 30:00 - Seth's Blog post with his Blessings For
- 30:23 - ..."intentionally praying this prayer a
blessing and consecration over my kids. And so, you know, that's
something I think everybody let me just challenge everybody here.
If you haven't blessed your kids in a way that if I were to ask
your child, you know, have you been blessed by your dad? And they
would say, Oh, definitely, if they can't answer that, then go ahead
and do it again."
- 30:59 - "when you get to heaven, what I
understand is it's Jesus that's waiting. And it's your family
that's waiting. So your dad is like going to be waiting and there's
not going to be this level of awkwardness there to just get over
yourself. Have some courage, I vulnerability and courage or flip
sides of the same coin. So just press into this stuff that's hard
and do it."
- 31:20 - "if anybody needs to email me, I'll walk
you through it. I got nothing better to do and to help you get to a
place of reconciliation with those that are closest.
sethbarnes (at) adventures (dot) org
- 31:50 - "there's two ways of blessing. One
is with your actions, another is with your words. And if your
actions don't match your words, then that's going to just look like
- 32:54 -
John O'Donohue, book To bless the space between us
- 34:25 - "liminal space is space in between
thought and action. And so you got to have some thoughts and you've
got to meditate on the implications. So I would carve out a half a
day or at least an hour or two hours just to think about and I
living at my potential."
- 34:42 - "there's greatness in you. There's
amazing potential in you that you probably have not tapped and that
God wants to tap. And he often uses our weaknesses. And that's
where we're, you know, his strength shines through our
- 35:29 - "we ourselves should not be living in
fear. We are more than conquerors. The words us and many of us
don't live that way."
- 35:59 - "I started off the year by going to
Nigeria, and it was amazing how many people are going to do that.
And I don't know, you go, What is it that you need to do? That
would be amazing. And maybe it's going somewhere. Maybe it's a hard
conversation. Show some courage. That's my challenge to find a
place where you can be courageous today and use that as a place to
impart the Lord's strength to those that desperately need to hear
- Specific Blog Posts for
Connecting them to the Lord and answering key questions
through discipleship and mission (see this