Feb 11, 2021
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After raising four kids who are all walking with Jesus, Phil &
Diane were commissioned by the elders with the task of teaching
parents how to raise passionate Jesus followers. Phil Comer,
with assistance from his wife Diane and his son, John Mark, was the
founding pastor of Westside: A Jesus Church, a large and vibrant
church that welcomes millennials in Portland, Oregon. After handing
the lead role over to his son, he and Diane launched Intentional:
Raising Passionate Jesus Followers conferences as a way of teaching
and training the hundreds of young parents in their church who were
now raising families of their own. With his 40 years of pastoral
experience and counseling, and lessons learned through his own
parenting, he and Diane are bringing parents hope and practical
help to accomplish their God-given task of raising children who
will walk with God in vibrant faith.
Brook and Elizabeth Mosser help lead the Intentional Parent’s
ministry with Phil and Diane as well as serve at Riverbend Church
in Bend. Elizabeth is Phil and Diane’s daughter, which makes Brook
their son in law, which means they are all family learning to do
this thing called life and relationships together. They live in
Bend, OR with their four children Duke (9), Scarlet (7), Birdie
(3), and Sloane (1). Brook and Elizabeth are passionate about
seeing their own four kids become all in disciples of Jesus and
helping other’s do the same.
Video of this Conversation:
- 2:50 -
Raising Passionate Jesus Followers book
- 3:00 - Disproportionate relationships
- 4:45 - Phil's father's day message "Fathering Like a Father" YouTube
- 5:14 - Jeff asked Phil to speak life over Brook
- 5:33 - John 1 - Jesus was full of grace AND truth
- 8:12 - What does it mean to have a generational vision?
- 10:41 - "And I think sometimes we need to remember that what
we're doing with our kids is of eternal value. We're affecting
their eternity and even generations to come." - Phil Comer on
having a generational vision
- 11:17 - Jeff asks Brook about the concept of "Default Settings"
- 13:39 - Praying over the emotional wounds we've caused our
- 13:50 - Praying "God, would you just shield them from the worst
parts of me?"
- 14:11 - Being aware of where your weaknesses impact your
- 15:36 - Discussing the importance of seeing the big picture and
not focusing only on individual moments. Phil and Brook run an
organization called "Intentional Parents"
- 17:22 - "Anything lasting, anything of eternal value,
anything of substance, we can't do without Him. But as far as the
big picture....we parent out of relationship - our relationship
with God and our relationship with our kids and life, it's a
rhythm, and God designed it that way."
- 18:58 - You parent in relationships
- 19:33 - How to set your own family culture - have a macro
vision. "What do we want to put into the world? What do we want to
be known for?"
- 21:38 - What does it mean to "raise passionate Jesus
- 21:56 - "Trying to raise kids that operate in a different
kingdom all together."
- 22:50 - Analyzing scenes from movies to point out the lies
people are believing.
- 23:41 - "So I think as far as raising passionate Jesus
followers - it's every single moment is Deuteronomy 6. When you
wake up, when you lie down, when you go along the road, you're
talking about Jesus, you're doing it yourself. You're not asking
your kids to beat something that you're not beating yourself. And
it's raising kids that really know and love Jesus."
- 24:35 - Phil talks about when dads realize that it's a
partnership with their wives, realizing kids are a gift from God,
and their job as a dad is important - that's the lightbulb moment
for dads at their conferences.
- Phil quoting his son, John Mark Comer, "Pretty much every
problem in the world goes back to fathers not doing what they were
called to do and not walking with the Father the way supposed
- 27:00 - "Cause I think everyone has father wounds in one way or
another. Right? And you're never going to be a perfect dad, but you
can be a thoughtful, intentional dad. And we're intentional about
so many things in our lives. So as a dad, you can be intentional
about your exercise, your hobbies, your work, your relationship
with your wife, but oftentimes it doesn't usually trickle down to
your kids, you know, by and large. And so I think if you can catch
that vision to recognize like that is equally, if not more
important than all those other things mentioned in the sense of
work or hobbies or whatever, you will never regret it." -
- 29:10 - Brook discussing how there is a process for you and
your kids - there are phases
- 31:03 - Spiritual parenting - the most important thing you do
is to teach your kid to walk with the Lord.
- 31:30 - The Foundation Years - the first 5 years
- 32:04 - The Framing Years - Elementary
- 32:18 - The Functional Systems - Teen years
- 32:44 - The Finishing Work - 18-22yrs
- 33:19 - The concept of the box from the book "Raising
Passionate Jesus Followers" - Jesus is the foundation, then there
is discipline, encouragement, the rod of correction, order. The top
is affection, affirmation and fun.
- 36:15 - The most powerful parenting position is
- 37:37 - the greatest gift you can ever give your kids after
leading him to Jesus is the gift of a good marriage.
- 38:20 - Phil's last word - "Tenderness" - 1 Peter 3 says,
"You, in turn, must treat your wives with tenderness, viewing them
as feminine partners who deserve to be honored, for they are
co-heirs with you of the divine grace of life, so that nothing will
hinder your prayers."
- 39:26 - "So I just feel like the way we treat our wives,
especially in front of our kids is of massive importance. You're
teaching your sons how to treat their future wives."