Nov 19, 2020
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this movement.
Our Mission: Resource churches with tools and
coaching to help dads live fully alive and lead their families to
God’s awesomeness. A movement of dads receiving love from their
Heavenly Father (Mark 1:11) and intentionally pursuing the hearts
of their kids. “He shall turn the heart of the fathers to their
children, & the heart of the children to their fathers…” Malachi
4:6
Learn more about
supporting dadAWESOME
Andy Crouch
Andy is partner for theology and culture at Praxis, which works
as a creative engine for redemptive entrepreneurship. His two most
recent books--2017's The Tech-Wise Family and
2016's Strong and Weak--build on the compelling
vision of faith, culture, and the image of God laid out in his
previous books, Playing God and Culture
Making.
Andy serves on the governing boards of Fuller Theological
Seminary and the Council for Christian Colleges and Universities.
For more than ten years he was an editor and producer at
Christianity Today, including serving as executive editor from 2012
to 2016. He served the John Templeton Foundation in 2017 as senior
strategist for communication. His work and writing have been
featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Time, and
several editions of Best Christian Writing and Best Spiritual
Writing--and, most importantly, received a shout-out in Lecrae's
2014 single "Non-Fiction." He lives with his family in
Pennsylvania
Conversation Notes:
- 1:16 - Andy Crouch - Author of
The Tech-Wise Family &
co-author of My Tech-Wise
Life with his daughter.
- 1:36 - Check out dadawesome.org/give for ways to
support dadAWESOME.
- 2:59 - Introduction to Andy’s
family
- 5:03 - What are some of the
components that lead to a family that is flourishing?
- Authority
- Vulnerability
- Discussing parenting literature
about parenting with a balance of warmth and
firmness.
- 6:54 - The authority and
vulnerability paradox. Authority - capacity for meaningful action, the ability to
do something and have it really matter in the world. Vulnerability
is exposure to meaningful risk.
- 7:17 - “I think that our best
moments as families, our best moments as parents but also kids’
best moments, are when we are given the capacity for meaningful
action in some way. That is, we have some ability to have something
matter that we do, AND we are exposed to meaningful risk - that is,
it could go wrong and we could lose something.”
- 9:27 - Discussing the process
of writing a book with his
daughter.
- 11:45 - “Before they hit [adolescence], they're
transparent in a way [that] we know what they're feeling, we know
what they're thinking, and we usually know why. But then there's
this important thing that happens in adolescence which is detaching
from that transparency, in a way. Hopefully without
secrets.”
- 12:20 - Jeff’s perspective on
the book: (1) Andy continually pointed his daughter back to
scripture. (2) It wasn’t just about technology, it was about
connecting with his daughter’s heart.
- 14:08 - “The reality is tech is about the heart because
so much of our relationships now are mediated and...especially as
your kids hit adolescence... you really have to pay attention to
the way that technology, and really specifically media, shrink the
channel for relationship.”
- 16:02 - “The first way in which
this is really about the heart, is our heart is ultimately about
Who knows me? Who loves me? Am I known by someone and does that
person once they know me, do they love me? Do they still love me...
once someone really sees who I am? And you know the biggest way
tech fails is on on question number one: Does anyone know
me?”
- 17:19 - “So many of our relationships get channeled
through these media that really are not sufficient for deep real
relationship, and we really have to pay attention as our kids get
older as to how we help them navigate that.”
- 17:43 - Phrase from Tech-Wise
Family: Technology makes things “easy
everywhere.”
- 18:50 - “There are good things
about this (easy everywhere), but they aren’t good for our heart
because we don’t grow when things are easy.”
- 19:57 - “So much of our lives
has become so easy, and easy is always an option, that we never
actually experience what it's like to grow through difficulty, to
grow through adversity. And yet, that's what actually makes us into
the kind of people who can have deep relationships and who have...
hearts to offer the world.”
- 21:15 - Being creators
versus consumers.
- 21:45 - “I believe this goes all the way down to who we
are in the image of god and that we are meant to cultivate and
create in the world that's our that is our purpose as human beings
uh representing the one who created the whole
world.”
- 22:13 - Connection between
consumer culture and the story of the garden of Eden.
- 23:20 - “And the message that
we all get now is you're defined by what you consume rather than
defined by what you create.”
- 24:35 - Coaching from Andy
around family rhythms and developing a “creating” culture in our
homes and with our kids.
- 24:45 - Definition of Culture -
patterns that reflect underlying values. The strongest cultural
patterns are those that everybody does. Build your culture and
things you all do together.
- 28:07 - Build a culture on
rhythms of use and non-use and a rhythm of work and rest -
Sabbath.
- 29:07 - Screens disrupt sleep
and screens allow secrets.
- 30:53 - How he set up his house
to facilitate the family culture
- 32:15 - “How you design your space makes a big
difference about what are you inclined to do together? Will you
turn something on and start consuming or do you actually pick
something up and start creating?”
- 33:24 - Hope and encouragement
for the dad who feels like he’s messed up. “You are not going to get through this without
the two elements of trust: Rupture and Repair.
- 35:45 - “You have got to realize that a limitless world
is terrible for human beings and so you have to be willing as the
authority in the home to re-establish limits that may never have
had.”
- 38:55 - Andy’s prayer for
dads.
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