Nov 12, 2020
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Jon Tyson is a Pastor and Church Planter in New York City.
Originally from Adelaide, Australia, Jon moved to the United States
twenty years ago with a passion to seek and cultivate renewal in
the Western Church. He is the author of Rumors of God, Sacred
Roots, A Creative Minority, The Burden is Light, and Beautiful
Resistance. For the last 15 years Jon has lived in Manhattan with
his family. He serves as the Lead Pastor of Church of the City New
- 2:07 - Statement from a friend
who works at Barna that heavily influenced Jon's life, "The
church has basically reached a point of irreversible decline
statistically, and by radical discipleship of our children,
what would be described as a historic revival the church is beyond
human turnaround. So it's going to take an act of God and radical
discipleship for our kids."
- 3:19 - "The summer of covid-19 has probably been the hardest
season of my life, but I've seen the greatest answers to prayer in
my entire life this summer as well."
- 3:35 - Thoughts on personal prayer life and for our kids.
"Intercessory prayer for the places that we live, having a sense of
call to shape a place through prayer, those are sort of the huge
passions of my life and I think it's the number one thing most
people want to do, but don't know how to do. And it's the thing the
enemy attacks the most because it's where all the power and fruit
- 4:33 - How to coach our kids to pray? Make Jesus as compelling
as possible. Also, stewarding your own life of prayer and sharing
those answers with your kids. And make prayer fun. "The goal of
prayer is to get your kids to love Jesus and I think when you're a
kid, making prayer as enjoyable as possible and having consistency
Video Link -"Teach Your Children to Pray" with Dr. David
Ireland -- We pray that these resources will be an encouragement
and help to you as you guide your children in learning to speak
with God! Thank you all so much for taking your time and resources
to invest in your children in this way. I am confident that the
Lord is going to raise up incredible disciples because of the way
you are all sewing into your children's lives and faith!
- 6:31 - Dr. David Ireland. Jon Tyson's coach.
- 7:02 - Thoughts on having a coach, finding a coach, and what
Jon has learned from that relationship and how it's changed his
- 9:22 - Reasons to have a coach - "I think everybody needs
someone older speaking into what they do. It's it's quite often in
midlife...you've got enough success, you've sort of built your own
coping mechanisms, tactics... you're kind of like 'I can just keep
it going... I've built a life [and] I can probably manage this
thing out,' and I was just like I need to get better. The future's
changing and as things grow I need to be more agile, so I need to
get a different toolkit."
- 11:38 - How to recognize a mentor? "I think... we all need to
know what are we deeply called to, and then we'll know when we have
the right person to speak into our lives."
- 11:55 - The Primal
Path: Raising a Son of Consequence
- 13:28 - Sharing about writing meaningful letters to important
people in our life.
- 14:04 - His son's voluntary expression of gratitude and how it
- 15:05 - Writing a letter to his dad to share with him what he
- 16:04 - Richard Rohr - "Whatever pain is not transformed is
transmitted." "We tend to break our kids in the same place
that we are broken because we don't know a way through it."
- 18:00 The Council of
Dads: My Daughters, My Illness, and the Men Who Could Be Me by
- 19:03 - The World
- 19:08 - Sharing about the experience for his son. "I wanted him
in this liminal space. My goal was to irreparably break his heart
for the poor of the world so he'd never just be a spoiled,
complacent American ever - He'd always be haunted, because those
years are so formative... I just wanted to get in there, God's
heart for the poor."
- 20:00 - Book: The compound effect.
- 20:25 - Sharing the story of his son's finishing The Primal
Path with a 33 day hike across Spain
- 22:08 - Parenting through social contracts - agreements around
responsibilities, rights and privileges. Inspired by Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of
Highly Effective Families
- 24:43 - Book: Parenting With
Love And Logic by Foster Cline
- 25:30 - "We have a responsibility to take the beauty of Jesus
and make him come alive in our kid's hearts."
- 26:08 - The Primal Path. "The missing piece in modern culture,
designed to help you walk a kid from adolescence into
- 27:25 - "Designed to create a sacred relationship and a
sacred journey between his father and his kids to help them get
into adulthood....if you don't initiate your kids and take them on
a journey, they will self-initiate, often through tremendous harm,
or the culture will initiate them....it's basically who's going to
design the pathway of helping your kids figure out life?
- 28:15 - "I'm trying to disrupt toxic masculinity and reclaim as
normal a formation pathway from adolescence into manhood."
- 28:35 - Pathway for his daughter - "50 Pieces of My Heart: 50
key deposits every father needs to make in his daughter's
- 29:02 - Jon's next book, Intentional Father, Outlines
five kinds of dads:
- Irresponsible dads - come in, get out, do nothing
- Ignorant dads - don't know what they are doing and do
- Inconsistent dads - torn with their own ambitions - often
- Involved dads - our culture's version of a great dad
- Intentional Father - believes it's the primary responsibility
and builds a pathway based on who those kids are
- 30:40 - Sermon series around Altars. Message about
- 31:00 - Most recent book: The Beautiful
Resistance - Being a dad of conviction vs.
compromise. "Part of it comes with a sense of sort of working
through your own drama... and figuring out what it is that God's
given you, understanding what faithfulness to Jesus looks like, and
then fundamentally breaking the fear of man... I'm not going to
give an account to our culture for my life, I'm going to give an
account to Jesus and there's joy in having convictions and there's
joy in keeping them."
- 32:34 - "Work out the convictions that God puts in your heart,
convictions about discipleship, and then just don't care what
people think. And it takes a lot of work and maintenance to not
care what people think. And then to raise kids who are not
controlled by the fear of man or the culture. You can't impart that
if you don't have that. So there's a lot of soul work that you need
to do to understand your own values and your own convictions and
then be willing to literally go to war for them."
- 35:23 - "Maintain the emotional bond with your kid. Kids come
out of the womb with an emotional bond. Cultivate it. Keep it.
That's the most important principle. So whenever you want to do any
of these things, there's a connection where they trust you and they
see that it's worth it."
Jon’s Altars Series: